One day they will be grown…

one day they will be grown

Recently I completed my first 10km race something that less than two years ago I could never have fathomed doing in a million years and I did it in a very respectable time of 1:02 (since it was 30 degrees I was thrilled just to be able to do it!), but in the midst of feeling proud of myself I also started to think about why I did it to start with.  Why did I start running and why did I set myself this goal?  It all comes down to the fact that one day they will be grown….

One day they will be grown and they won’t need me anymore.  Well, they probably will as I still need my parents, but it will be different.  I won’t be their everything.  I won’t be the person they turn to for every little thing and they won’t be calling mummy three thousand times a day.  At the moment that rather sounds like bliss, but I am fairly sure that the silence will be rather deafening to me.  This is one of the issues that strikes me about being a SAHM what happens when that role doesn’t exist anymore? Can you make yourself redundant?  I must check the employee manual to see what the redundancy policy is.  I hope they pay more than statutory!   My children are still little, but the twins will go to nursery later this year and whilst everyone still spends much of their lives plaguing me for attention I do already feel the change especially in my eldest little who at 7 years old is starting to desire more and more independance.  Gone are the days when he might linger by my side for half a birthday party – he now barely has time to say goodbye before he races off to join his friends and so it should be, but where does that leave the mummy?

This is sounding rather maudlin and it isn’t meant to as I am also looking forward to years of having fun with my crazy crew; many summer holidays, school plays, sports days and all of the other great things that come once they are at school.  I was merely thinking about the change in my role that is coming up.  From October my girls will be in nursery 2.5 days per week and so for the first time in 8 years I won’t have a small child or baby to consider in my plans for the day.  I will need to find a new direction and activities or goals that are outside of my children so that when they are all at school I will be busy and fulfilled.

Go back to work

One option would be to go back to work, but this doesn’t seem like a practical option as I will still need and want to be present for school drop offs and pick ups.  Once they are at school I will have 3 assemblies per term so would probably be the world’s worst employee.

I do plan to increase the amount of time I spend on this lovely blog though and try to grow my CV writing and career coaching business.

I have seen my contribution to the household as being childcare for the past few years and so now that this won’t be needed so much well not through the hours of 9-3pm I would like to make more financial contribution

 

Get Fitter

I already work out a lot and have managed to lose some 3 stone since having my twins 3 years ago, but I could be fitter still.  The annoying mummy tummy is still clinging on for dear life so I am setting myself a goal of working out at least 4 times per week in the hopes of shifting that stubborn pouch!!

 

Learn French

We holiday in France every year and one of our joint goals (dreams) would be to buy a holiday home in France so I am thinking that I need to brush up the old French.  It does get better every summer and I can get by, but I would love to be able to properly speak French and also for the children to be able to speak French.  So this year is the year.  I am going to learn French.  If anyone has an app or language learning programme they would recommend let me know!

 

Friendships

Those of you who are my friends may have noticed that I have been MIA for the past few years.  This has to change and I plan to be a better friend going forward.  Caring for these littles has occupied my thoughts constantly and so I have neglected my friendships.  A goal is to reconnect with my friends and continue to develop my newer friendships.

 

Sort out the house

Since the twins were born I have been filing everything in the deal with it once they are a nursery pile.  Woe bedtide anyone who opens a cupboard in our house!!  I cannot defer this anymore and so I will be sorting out the house this year

 

Couple Time

My husband works from home one day a week.  He is working and I am off out and about with the kids so I don’t see him much during these days, but once the girls are at nursery I am really looking forward to us being able to have lunch together and on our own once a week.

 

So official goals for the change in my mummy role are now in writing!  I hate to fail so I will be getting it done and hopefully this will ease the slight ache in my heart when all I hear is quiet two days a week…

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27 thoughts on “One day they will be grown…

  1. It is great to have self awareness and be able to think ahead. Some great goals to work towards here especially the couple time one which can often be overlooked :-) Tom @Ideas4Dads recently posted...Put Your Phone Away DadMy Profile
    1. Thanks for the comment and for being with us on the #DreamTeam
  2. Congratulations on your 10k! That is fantastic!!! Children do grow up so fast. I can't believe my youngest is now 33 and a daddy himself!
  3. I feel you. my youngest is going to nursery in jan and i'm thinking about going back to work, or volunteering, or something! i'll worry about it after christmas, lol!
    1. It is an odd feeling so I don't blame you for putting off the planning ;)
  4. My husband and i were just talking about this. Couple time is very important. #dreamteam
  5. I could relate to this post so much. In my times of great stress with the littles I always take a breather and remember they are only little for such a short time. One day I'll miss the fighting, organised chaos, piling dishes, never-ending laundry and having zero time to myself. #DreamTeam
  6. It's always good to set yourself goals. I do it all the time but I'm working on a new vision board at the moment. Good luck in achieving your goals x #dreamteam
  7. These sound like great goals. Its good to have a plan. Well done on the running. Thats pretty speedy! #dreamteam
    1. Thanks Sally for the comment and being on the #DreamTeam
    2. Thanks Sally.
  8. Really good plans and on the france front Do it! Babbel is good for learning French and I find it better than duelingo. Futurelearn is another option or the open university. #DreamTeam
    1. Thanks Kate. I have just purchased Babbel and so far I like it. #DreamTeam
  9. YOu have some great goals! I have always worked full time. I had 6 months maternity leave on full pay (i know - that is very lucky) and I returned to work full time as soon as that ended. aS a single mother, i would love a little bit of extra flexibility to attend things like school assemblies. I do attend these things - I a just a bit of a crap employee sometimes - you have to get your priorities right in live sometimes! Pen x #dreamteam Pen recently posted...Share these questions with a mother, a sister, a friendMy Profile
    1. Thanks so much for your comments and for your post on the #DreamTeam this week. I have chosen you as a featured blogger
  10. And here I'm just trying to not drool on myself in front of the tv! A 10K though, that's amazing!!! #DreamTeam
    1. I must say that is another goal of mine too.... ;) #DreamTeam
  11. Well done on the run. What a massive achievement! Your planned goals sound fab and i'm sure the few hours a week will be filled before you know it. Though being a mummy of 4, you really do deserve a bit of downtime for yourself! Thanks for being a super #dreamteam host xx Annette, 3 Little Buttons recently posted...11 back to school daft comments beta parent will always sayMy Profile
    1. Thanks. I did find it quite empowering and now I am getting all brave and trying new things. Thanks for having me as a host! #DreamTeam
  12. I love the sound of your goals. Owning a place in France sounds fab! #dreamteam
    1. Fingers crossed we can find an estate agent who takes payment in shirt buttons - lol! Thanks for being on the #DreamTeam
  13. I completely get this post! I feel sad at the thought of being needed less and less and wonder what direction my life will take #dreamteam
    1. It is a strange feeling as you of course know it is how is should be, but still it is daunting. Thanks for sharing with the #DreamTeam
  14. It does get easier when they Are all at schOol. My husband and i used to have a midweek breakfast together once a month. It was My favourite day. #dreamteam
    1. That sounds like a nice way to start a day. Thanks for joining the #DreamTeam
  15. Good for you! I am about to run my first PROPER race - the great south run next Month #DreamTeam Crummy Mummy recently posted...My back to school new year resolutionsMy Profile
    1. Good luck with the race. I hope it goes well #DreamTeam

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