Worries all mums can face
Being a mum is the most rewarding thing I think anyone of us can experience, but I also feel it is one of the hardest challenges we will ever face. The issue is, so many of us can feel alone in the journey and feel we are the only ones feeling this conflict of emotions. The truth is, we all experience worry from time to time and motherhood can certainly make us feel anxious. With that in mind, here are some of the most common worries all mums can face and have to deal with.
I hope by sharing these worries all mums can face and that I have definitely dealt with it will help other mums and maybe even ease those anxious feelings in the process. Children are blessings, yes, but it’s also wise for our own sanity to feel comforted that we are not the only ones to worry.
One of the biggest things we as mums can worry about is the health of our children. Any high fever, cough and cold can certainly send our worry emotion into overdrive, especially as a first-time mum. It’s natural to be concerned as to whether your child is healthy or experiencing something nasty which is why it’s always advisable to seek guidance from doctor when you are concerned. But It’s understandable that appointments may be in the future, and the truth be told we would like an answer there and then as to the welfare of our babies. Sometimes simple things like constipation can be resolved through over the counter products like a Baby Stool Softener
Colic and wind can be helped through over the counter remedies or even using baby massage techniques. There are even things you can do at home to alleviate common illnesses like a cold such as steam generated from a shower or a natural remedies such as turmeric or honey (not under 12 months old) for example.
It is always my preference to seek advice if I am not sure. That might be from the GP or the pharmacist, but I also think it is important to trust your own instinct and judgement. It is ok to feel worried sometimes and to ask professionals for their help and guidance.
School can be such a huge worry to mothers. From wondering whether they are getting the best out of the educational environment to whether they will have friends in their class. Some people choose to home school, and then wonder whether that is the best option. We all want to ensure that our children learn as much as they can in the most positive of manners. If you dindo feel a little anxious over this then speaking to other mothers, reading experiences of other mothers or even chatting to the school itself could enable you to put your mind at ease a little. I would always suggest joining parenting email or whats app groups at your kids school as asking those who have done it before can be so useful.
There isn’t any mother out there who won’t worry about the development of their child. Sure milestones and ages are not necessarily important as each child develops at their own rate, but it doesn’t stop us questioning whether everything is fine. Again communicating these concerns will be the only way to put your mind at ease, every child is different after all. This is one of the areas where chatting to other mums can be both a help and a hindrance as let’s face it we can all be tempted to compare… I found attending health visitor appointments and asking questions was really useful when I was concerned about my daughter’s speech development.
Our own mindset
What mum doesn’t worry about their own mindset? Whether that is feeling crazy by the end of the day, or even feeling the loneliness that can come with motherhood. It isn’t spoken about enough, and it is so important to surround yourself with positive people who will help support you. Especially on those days where you are feeling tired and drained. It is so very hard to remember yourself when your children need so much, but we need to take care of ourselves so we can take care of them!
Meditation for mental health
Of course, there are so many other things to worry about such as sleep and fussiness with eating, but at least we can all agree that a problem can be halved when spoken about. More often than not, it can make you feel much calmer about the situation. Mummy friends are super important as we are all in this together after all! I know I have benefited from chatting things through even if the end result has been that I need to speak to the professionals.